What are Energetic Boundaries?
I’m going to start off assuming you have somewhat of an idea about Chakras & the Aura, and that everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies. Everything physical, music, light, thoughts…. EVERYTHING. That’s why like attracts like, those energetic frequencies are resonating and bringing more of that energy vibration to it. (If you need a little refresher check out my article on The Law of Attraction Here.) Creating a forcefield around us enforcing energetic boundaries or lack of.
Our Aura or auric field consists of several layers and all correspond to our Chakras (energy centers within the body) The layers are all interlaced, but some reach out beyond our physical body more than others. So Whatever is affecting the spiritual layer is also affecting the physical layer.
The physical layer is closest to our body then there is Emotional, Relational, and Spiritual. There are actually more than that in between and beyond, but I’m keeping it simple for now.
How are Energetic Boundaries Formed?
As we grow different layers of our Auric Field and Chakras are activated allowing us to learn new lessons and different spiritual truths we need in life. Boundaries are created for each layer as they develop. But as children we are very impressionable, so others outside ourselves can influence that energy layer and the way the boundary is formed. [parents, relatives, ancestors, school, culture, friends, enemies, religion, life challenges, traumatic events all affect our auric field]
The events and memories from childhood can stay in our energy field as we grow older causing our boundaries to be weak, or filled with holes, and sometimes not having a boundary at all ( people pleasers, doormats). I’ll explain the different types shortly.
What Do Energetic Boundaries Do?
Our boundaries are like invisible gates that when working properly keep out the harmful and let in the helpful. They separate what we do need from what we don’t. Energetic boundaries selectively let into our lives only energies, people, guidance, thoughts, situations, opportunities, and healing that further us in our life to be the highest vibrating form of our self. In other words keep us in alignment or raise our vibrations.
- Protection >>> Keep out energies that fail to support our well being.
- Filtering >>> Let in energies that enhance our lives, and keep in the energy we need.
- Magnetize >>>Draw what we need to us, including healing, information, guidance, people, events, jobs, money, healthy relationships, and life lessons.
Remember like attracts like. If we have some high vibin healthy ass boundaries surrounding our high vibin energetic field that’s what we will magnetize to us. If we have some weak boundaries or holes that let any ones energy in and out. That is what we will attract more of. Heal and enforce your boundaries.
We all have that radar when we feel like something isn’t right or get a weird vibe about a certain person. Those are our boundaries protecting us. We are picking up on the others energy and it is transmitting back to ours. Our energy field is reading it and then we interpret it as that feeling. The too close for comfort or when someone is in your bubble for example are instances of this.
Some peoples boundaries are too strong and they do not allow anything in. They become distant when someone is getting too close to them. They created that boundary for safety because they may have been hurt in the past so they put up a wall aka real strong ass boundary.
Our boundaries are the DEFENSE. Healthy boundaries let energy in and out. Unhealthy either lets it all in, all out, or blocks it completely, the good and bad.
What Do Healthy Boundaries Look Like?
- Allow us to respond tolerantly rather than defensively.
- Remain in control and in our power.
- Be the bigger person/ remove ourselves from a situation in stead of reacting to remain unaffected.
- Keeps us separate from others problems or blame. (We are all responsible for ourselves and our feelings no one else.)
- Our boundaries mirror back to the other persons projections. Our healthy boundary may look like something else to them.
For someone who may have let people walk all over them before, saying NO to someone can be their newly enforced boundary. And the person they say no to, may take it personal, project their own meaning for it. The newly enforced boundary is simply just protecting their energy..
Types of Unhealthy Boundaries
I mentioned previously that all the energetic levels are interlaced meaning they all affect each other. Many of our personal issues & health issues are related to boundaries that have been violated. Once we start healing ourselves on a emotional and mental level you will notice our physical ailments start to heal to. Healing will create stronger boundaries, and when we heal and learn the lessons we are raising our vibrations. Higher vibrations = stronger boundaries.
BECOME RIGID / IMMOBILIZED (ICY WALL)
- MAKES OTHERS FEEL COLD & SHUT DOWN
- PEOPLE STAY AWAY PERCEIVING US AS UNAVAILABLE OR DISINTERESTED
- REPEL POSITIVE EVENTS OR OPPORTUNITES
BECOME PERMEABLE (LOOSE, FLIMSY, WEAK)
- HAVING NO BOUNDARIES
- SWEPT ASIDE, IGNORED, USED, TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF
- PEOPLE PLEASERS / DOORMATS
SLICED, DICED (FULL OF HOLES)
- GAPS IN OUR LIVES ALLOW THROUGH WHICH ANYONE CAN WALK
- ABSORB OTHERS ENERGIES (DISEASES, POVERTY, ISSUES)
- LOSE OUR OWN LIFE FORCE
- ROLE OF VICTIM
How To Enforce Boundaries & Protect Your Energy
The first place I would start is figure out where you need to heal or what lessons are trying to be shown to you. If you have no clue start with the patterns you see in your relationships and your life. What seems to be happening over and over. (THE ABANDONMENT WOUND, Getting The Relationship You Want Using The Law of Attraction, Are You Letting Fear Run Your Life?, Playing Victim Will Stunt Your Growth) A few articles that might lead you to your answer.
-Set an intention for the day. Intentions are thoughts and thoughts are energy. Set an intention that you plan to protect your energy and enforce your boundaries.
-Surround yourself with or wear objects that hold meaning for you. That resonate a high vibration. Photos, jewelry, clothing, objects, healing tools. I wear certain crystals that have energies to protect.
-Affirmations. Ask your higher power to form an invisible boundary so no harm can be done.
-Intuition. Follow it.
-Grounding
-Colors>>> they make us feel different ways. Maybe your intuition is telling you wear red, because it makes you feel powerful and is also associated with the root chakra, the physical energy field.
-Imagination supports strong boundaries. Imagine a clear screen of energy around you that filters the energy you come in contact in. It takes in the good and prevents you from taking in others energy as your own.
-Calling our energy back to us. If you feel a part of your energy field is not with you, for instance someone told you a very sad story about their life and your heart went out to them… a bit of your energetic field associated with the heart chakra went to them. It is okay to feel sympathy for others, but do not let others steal your energy. Take a few deep breaths and using intention call your energy back to you. There are people out there that want you to feel bad for them and they feed off your energy for attention reconfirming their victim status. Don’t get wrapped up in that.
-Notice when you are triggered by someone and instead of reacting, set it aside to reflect on later. Question the why of the situation and heal from it.
-At the end of the day as you lay in bed go over in your mind for everything you are grateful for that day (This raises our vibrations) Acknowledge any situations that happened and release them to whomever your higher power is. Say i leave this situation in your hands.
-Ask that your chakras be aligned as you sleep and any negative thought patterns or beliefs you are holding in your energy field be released. Ask to fill your body with Divine healing light and that a protective energy field surround you and your bed as you sleep.
Final Thoughts
I hope this article helps you understand your energy a little better and how to protect it. I will be writing another post next week on the different types of crystals that help protect our energy and enforce boundaries.
Stay tuned for my Protection Collection being released the next Full Moon
Good vibes & Light heading your way!
If you are wanting to read up more on energy bodies, these are some of my favorite books on the subject <3
